Your Real Voice is the voice you would have if your speaking were connected to your own Authority, your own vision, your own Feelings, your Archetypally driven Free And Natural Adult life-service-mission on Earth, and your own determined Adventure spirit. What would you do if you accidentally found a way to take back your Real Voice? Would you do it?
Let's assume you were crazy enough to decide to stop blaming other people for your life not turning out very cool. Let's say you take Radical Responsibility for your Creating your life. What then? At first you would probably feel quite alone. Who else takes their authority back? Not many. But some. These are the 'New Refugees'.
By taking your Authority back you would then be a New Refugee yourself, an Edgeworker, a 'Cultural Creative'. If you took back your Real Voice you would then be 'in the same boat' with the more than 100 million other New Refugees in the world. New Refugees are created either through Armageddon (rejected from their previous life circumstances by force of war, famine, or climate change) or through Evolution (abandoning their previous life circumstances by force of awareness).
In either case, it is not an accident. Becoming a New Refugee is a kick-in-the-butt incredible opportunity given to you from E.C.C.O. (Earth Coincidence Control Office) to get on track with yourself and to create a new future for yourself. What a truly precious gift! It is like having more than one life in one lifetime.
Taking back your Real Voice, spoken from your own Authority, gifts you with enough Radical Responsibility to negotiate the consequences, whatever they are. It all starts with Being Centered.
We discovered that placing your Attention on your Energetic Center, and then using your Intention to move your Energetic Center to your Physical Center is an archetypal triggering mechanism for taking back your own Authority. It is an incredible sensation.
Everything else proceeds from there.
FROM A SPACEHOLDER PERSPECTIVE
When sharings in your space are too long and boring, it is a door for you as the spaceholder to train your people in sharings. If the sharings are too long, it is a sign that your participants are doing defensive sharing, survival sharings. They speak, mostly unconsciously, meaning familiarly, not to transform but to be safe.
Try to notice how each of your participants speak in a way to defend the status quo of their Box: being the smart one, being the fast one, being the most analytical one, being the emotional one, behaving in way that is seemingly appropriate in 'workshop' (this is the workshop junky type box), pleasing the authority figure, trying to do it right, etc... All of this kind of sharing is dead. You are bored. The other people are bored. And the person's being is bored and starving. Boredom is one of your alarm about inauthentic sharings.
An entire part of the path of Evolution is for your people to learn how to speak from their Being, to reconnect their Real Voice to their feelings, to their soul, to their Dragon,... They were trained to connect their Voice to their mind, even if that includes a show of emotional display, and to their Box.
Your job has a spaceholder is to learn to experientially distinguish between authentic speaking -which is discovery, it is experimental, it is at the edge of the person's Box - and inauthentic speaking - designed to protect the Box.
And then to train your participants to speak from a place where their mind have no grip on what and how they say something. This could means they might need to go back to when they are 1 and half year old, and learn how to speak again. If they do not do it, it will not happen. You can be the person who starts this process for them.
For example, it is a particular symptom of American Boxes to enmesh their speaking and thinking with their Box. It takes work and ongoing feedback for people to disenmesh their Voice from their Box. Without that process they cannot experience: "I have a Box. I am not my Box." Everytime they think or speak, it is their Box. If their Voice and Speaking is enmeshed in their Box/Gremlin, they have no chance to let their heart, their Being, their soul, their Bright Principles speak through them.
At first and no noise came out of me. I did not tell anyone in my immediate life what I was doing — only the people holding the space for me to practice knew. It was my own quiet exploration. All I did was practice rising the energy I labelled as anger in my body and let it circulate with less judgment and more curiosity.
I did my first loud, messy expression of anger out on an isolated stretch of beach one stormy evening. The first sensation was a cold fear, so I watched the ocean, letting its force guide me to my own internal oceanic place.
I asked for more from myself, gently opening up, pushing deeper, digging around, moving sounds up and out of me from my belly, letting go of preconceived ideas of how it ‘should go’.
Slowly I found my roar. I snarled and yelled, coughed and spluttered for almost forty-five minutes until my voice rasped. It felt fucking great.
I remember showing up to work the next day and relating to people differently. It felt like I had discovered a spine I did not know I had, a voice that was foreign to me and a dawning realization that I had entered a new terrain in which to play.
I found that I must practice to recondition the movement of anger energy through my body. Over the course of the next few months I took almost weekly trips out to that lonely stretch of beach... just to roar, just to yell, just to feel my anger without reason or story.
This practice opened up my creative life like nothing before. I began writing daily on a blog, drawing and sleeping much better. I had more stamina and could get more things done during the day.
Most importantly for me though was the unleashing of an ability to take action before I even knew why or how. This served me tremendously at work where I was a theatre nurse assisting with surgeries involving many instruments — I found an almost uncanny force at play while the tools flowed through my hands to the surgeons and I could hold a clarity of presence throughout the operation.
Not your metaphorical voice. I mean your actual voice.
It’s pretty clear to me that our speaking voice is not the result of the inevitable physical evolution of our vocal cords. It’s something our brain figured out how to do with the part of our body that keeps us alive by breathing.
And because it’s a late addition, there are a bunch of kinks in the system.
Talking while breathing is the beginning of the challenge.
But it’s also worth noting that the entire process is in the middle of a huge number of sensitive muscles and nerves. This means that when we’re talking (calling attention to ourselves) we’re also trying to keep all of that stress at bay. Add microphones, Zoom, and the high-stakes world of being seen, and you can start to understand why it’s so easy to get hoarse, to sound like someone you’re not, to develop tics, to amplify your stress, and a whole host of other challenges.
If you don’t sound like you, it might simply be because your brain is sabotaging the thing you’re trying to say. I used to riff about “no one gets talker’s block” but now I’m not so sure. I think most of us do.
If you’ve experienced any of this, I encourage you to find a good voice coach. Not because you’re some fancy keynote speaker about to go on the TED stage. Simply because you have something to say and it would be nice to be able to say it without pain. It’s easier than ever to have a few sessions remotely, and many people I know have found it life-changing. You can find someone nearby or even watch some videos to get started.
More interestingly, no one can stop you from doing it.
LEARN TO MAKE SOUND AGAIN... FOR NO REASON
Matrix Code REALVOIC.01
This experiment is best done in a group - like a Possibility Team with a spaceholder who 'runs' the space.
1st part. The group (as well as the spaceholder) walks in the room and when meeting someone, start a conversation in gibberish. It is a regular conversation, but it totally incomprehensible. When the conversation obviously comes to an end, keep walking about the room and start another conversation in gibberish and so on for about 5-6 min.
2nd part. The group forms a circle.
The spaceholder asks for one volunteer to rotate through these three challenges:
"Give me a sound for this..." (Not naming the thing. Just pointing at it, like: the floor, a person, a piano, or a refrigerator.)
"Give me a sound for... dust." (Naming the thing, like: church, whale, smile, or lightening.)
"Give me a sound for the opposite of... crystal." (Requesting a sound for the opposite of the thing you name, like: starfish, police, valley, or green.)
Spaceholders, let your own imagination cut loose.
The person might stall.
This is because we have learn to have to learn the right answer in school. And because there is no right answer here, the person does not know what is appropriate to say.
The spaceholder should encourage them: "Just let the first sound that comes out." or "Just open your mouth and let something come out".
If it is clear that the sound the person makes is not the first one that was coming out, the spaceholder stops and asks: "What was the first sound that wanted to come out?"
Then move on to the next person and the next.
Spaceholder, to bypass the mind trying to give the right answer. You have to ask the question faster than usual and in nonlinear way (not following the circle, etc..)
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LEARN TO COMMUNE WITH SOUNDS
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This experiment is best done in a group - like a Possibility Team with a spaceholder who 'runs' the space.
Have people in a circle and each person has to come up with one sound - short, one after the other, they don't have to match or anything, go around and around.
This releases of lot of energy and gets people to move into their body through their voice.
When people get comfortable with this, you could even have them make a posture with their sound after a few rounds of only sounds.
Try to keep the space light and joyful without Gremlins taking over.
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USE YOUR REAL VOICE TO LET YOUR HEART SPEAK ANGER SADNESS FEAR AND JOY
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Learn to speak from your heart. This means to speak from your anger, your fear, your sadness, and your joy, as feelings, not as emotions. Feelings are for handling things. Emotions are for healing things. If you cannot tell the difference your interactions with other human beings will drive you bonkers.
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USE YOUR REAL VOICE TO LET YOUR SWORD OF CLARITY SPEAK
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Learn to speak with your Energetic Sword Of Clarity in hand and pointed at the person (or people) you are speaking with as well as yourself. The Energetic Sword Of Clarity is sharp on both sides, meaning its clarity applies to yourself as well as others.
What kinds of things will your Sword Of Clarity say?
After two weeks of consciously speaking from your Sword Of Clarity and noting new things you say and what happens as a result, please register Matrix Code REALVOIC.10 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.
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USE YOUR REAL VOICE TO LET YOUR PEARL AUTHENTICALLY SPEAK
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USE YOUR REAL VOICE TO PREPARE FOR STELLATING YOUR FEELINGS ARCHETYPES
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Practice for 3 months doing 3-3-3 Practice.
Learn to hook your voice to 100% Archetypal feelings one at a time, beginning with anger, then fear, then sadness, then joy. In other words, do whatever it takes to stellate your feelings and ignite your feelings archetypes.
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USE YOUR REAL VOICE TO SPEAK FROM THE ADULT EGO STATE
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If you speak like your parents speak, this is the Parent Ego State, not the Adult Ego State.
If you speak like a child, the way you stand, fidget with your hands, rocking back and forth on your feet or going onto your toes, this is the Child Ego State not the Adult Ego State.
If you speak with rapid changes in tone and character, not connecting with the person across from you, making insinuations or insulting jokes, creating confusion, or Lying by withholding, etc., this is the Gremlin Ego State not the Adult Ego State.
Learn to speak from the adult ego state without your adult ego state being contaminated by your parent ego state, your child ego state, your gremlin ego state, or a demon ego state. This is a minimum 2 year long experiment. It is long and and difficult, but man! it is worth it! You can do this. Your life is hell without doing this. You can do it. Get yourself a Pirate buddy and do it! (See the Pirate EXPERIMENT below to learn what a Pirate Buddy is.)
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Join the 19th September global 'Talk Like A Pirate Day' plus medieval festivals and renaissance faires to dress up and go to for practicing your "Harbigarrr!"
The reason for learning to talk like a Pirate is so that you can Shift Identity when necessary into being a Pirate, so as to make Pirate agreements with your friends at your Possiblity Team or make radical instantaneous of your Bullshit Detector. This is how we help each other do whatever it takes to change our lives for real.
After spending 3 whole days Talking Like A Pirate (one day a week for 3 weeks, such as Pirate Monday!) please register Matrix Code REALVOIC.25 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.
USE YOUR REAL VOICE TO SING UNTIL THE SONG SINGS YOU
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Sing until the song sings you.
After Shifting Identity to become the space through which the song sings you for at least 30 minutes without stopping, please register Matrix Code REALVOIC.26 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.
Please beware that after this Experiment you will be in an altered state of consciousness. Please do not drive a car or bike for several hours. Please be careful going up or down stairs, or using any kind of electric power tools. Walking in nature or a warm bath, or simply resting or receiving a Holding might be best.
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HAVE A LESSON WITH A VOICE OR SINGING COACH
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When you speak, you call attention to yourself. This can evoke stress that easily triggers the Child Ego State's survival tactics. If you add a microphone, a camera focused on you, a Zoom screen, and the high-stakes world of being seen by an audience, you can start to understand why it is so easy to get hoarse, to sound like someone you’re not (your Unreal Voice...), to develop tics, to amplify your stress, and a whole host of other challenges.
You have heard of 'writer's block'. There can also be 'speaker's block'.
This Experiment is to arrange for a Possibility Coaching session to find your Real Voice. Not because you’re some fancy keynote speaker about to go on the TED stage, but simply because you have something to say and it would be nice to be able to say it without pain.
Your first 5 practice WorkTalks (online or offline) can be for free, but after that, it is necessary to charge somewhere between 8€ to 15€ for participants in your WorkTalk.
Be sure to announce the date, time, and place (or Zoom Link) for your WorkTalks far and wide. Send them to your Circle in your monthly Newsletter.
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PARTICIPATE IN A FULL ONLINE-OR-OFFLINE RAGE CLUB FOR THE PURPOSE OF TAKING BACK YOUR REAL VOICE
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After completing this Rage Club for taking back your real voice, please register Matrix Code REALVOIC.30 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. Please enter your Rage Club Spaceholder's name as the proof. This Experiment is worth 4 Matrix Points.
PARTICIPATE IN A FULL ONLINE-OR-OFFLINE FEAR CLUB FOR THE PURPOSE OF TAKING BACK YOUR REAL VOICE
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After completing this Fear Club for the purpose of taking back your real voice, please register Matrix Code REALVOIC.31 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. Bravo! Please enter your Fear Club Spaceholder's name as the Proof.